I’m fascinated by people and as a therapist I get curious about common patterns that I see come up time and again with clients. As a universal truth, I know that love isn’t enough, relationships are hard, and everyone wants to be seen, heard and validated. And though we all have those same basic needs, we often fail to meet our partner’s needs, we miss the mark of effective, compassionate communication and we find ourselves stuck and disconnected. In this week’s podcast episode, I share a working theory based on my observations that highlight 4 common patterns that are beneath the details within conflict between partners. Tune in to hear what these patterns are, and next time you are stuck in disconnection, see which one of these patterns is arising, so you can use this insight to help you move through the conflict with a bit more compassion, awareness and ease.