When kids are overexcited, in the middle of a temper tantrum, or having trouble with their homework parents often tell their kids to relax and calm down. When they are wiggling in their desks and having difficulty sitting still, teachers frequently say to their students just focus and pay attention. Or when children are too hyped up at the end of the day and just can’t fall asleep, exacerbated parents yell to their kids, just lie still and go to sleep. Parents and teachers are not wrong for wanting these … Continue reading Teaching Kids How To Just Be
It was the Friday afternoon of Valentine’s Day and I was heading into San Francisco for the weekend for the Wisdom 2.0 conference. I pulled into my hotel just with enough time to hear the opening address. As I’m checking into my hotel, I see a masseuse with her massage table walk into the lobby, and I thought to myself, “That’s cool! Someone is getting an in-room massage!” I am a self-proclaimed massage snob and all I ever really want is a massage. To me, it is the ultimate. While waiting, I strike up a … Continue reading Learning to Accept Mistakes, Mix-Ups and Free Massages
The past hour I’ve been trying to (mindfully, of course!) make dinner, go through the mail, empty the lunch boxes, organize the things I bought at CVS…and I’ve got nothing done. I’ve been busy playing a game of Ping-Pong. No, I haven’t been hanging out in my garage with a beer and a small paddle in hand. Rather, I’ve actually been the ball in this game of Ping-Pong, between my two daughters, going back and forth, back and forth through a series of, “Mom, can you come here?” and “Mom, … Continue reading Is The Instant Gratification Era Responsible For My Child’s Neediness?
~Posted on Dot Complicated~ The first Monday after the holiday break is always hard. Going back to work, school, your routine, carpooling, and doing all that laundry you’ve let accumulate while you spent a few days in pajamas really isn’t a fun start to the New Year. There is no smooth way to ease into it. You are quickly thrust into the throws of obligation while the thoughts of the holidays, relaxation and family time rapidly dissipate from your memory. The good news is that everyone experiences this. The collective … Continue reading Mental Tips To Lift You Out Of The Post-Holiday Blues
The New Year…it’s that quintessential time to reflect on the past, look towards the future, and probe deep inside with a lens of self-inquiry, introspection and honesty. It’s the season to make resolutions for all the things we want to change, do better, let go of, or fix about ourselves so we can achieve a healthier state of mind, body and soul. There is only one problem with New Year’s resolutions…they usually never work! According to Statistic Brain, 45% of people make resolutions but only 8% of people are successful … Continue reading Making New Year’s Intentions, Not Resolutions
Ten years ago today, I became a mommy. Via C-section, a tiny (I know, all babies are tiny…but this one really was!) little girl weighing only 5 lb. 15 oz. came out of my tummy and into my life! I always wanted a little girl and at 25 years old, I couldn’t believe that I was a mommy. I had a really good 9 months. I had that pregnancy glow, along with “bay-dar” (what I refer to as baby radar) that intuitively clued me in to other pregnant women. I … Continue reading As Parents, Time Is The Most Precious Commodity We’ve Got
Published November 14, 2013 on Dot Complicated Multi-tasking. On the surface, it seems like the greatest gift to parenthood, especially to mothers. We moms have this amazing ability to do a million things at once. We can make breakfast and lunches, sign homework papers, empty the dishwasher, start a load of laundry, and remind everyone of the after-school activities for the day. We superheroes (AKA, moms) simultaneously check our phones for status updates, respond to emails, schedule appointments, make coffee, help pack the backpacks, tie the shoes and actually get … Continue reading Forget “To-Do” And Try “To-Be”